Share your code. Discover your overlap. Find your Archë.
A profile you design — for partners, friends, and chosen family.
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How it works
Three steps. No swiping.
Answer the cards
239 cards about what you want, what you need, and what doesn't work for you — across every part of a relationship.
Share your code
Your code is yours to hand out. There's no directory, no search, no swiping — you connect only with people you choose.
See your overlap
Tomï shows where you and a connection line up, where you'd want to talk, and what to talk about first.
No defaults
Designed, not assumed.
Archë doesn't assume romance, sex, hierarchy, or a next step. Relationships are designed by the people in them — Archë just gives you the language. Needs get their own answers, separate from someday.
Built private
Private by design.
No public profiles. No discovery feed. Your answers are visible to you and the people you connect with — nobody else. No ads. No trackers. Your data exports or deletes whenever you say so.
The cards draw on relationship research — the Relationship Anarchy Smörgåsbord (Lawrence & Orr, updated by Maxx Hill), Gottman, PREPARE/ENRICH, Fair Play, Marisa Franco's Platonic, Angela Chen's Ace, and more — credited in full inside the app.